There is so much about my fate that I cannot control, but other things do fall under the jurisdiction. I can decide how I spend my time, whom I interact with, whom I share my body and life and money and energy with. I can select what I can read and eat and study. I can choose how I’m going to regard unfortunate circumstances in my life-whether I will see them as curses or opportunities. I can choose my words and the tone of voice in which I speak to others. And most of all, I can choose my thoughts.
I am lucky enough to have grown up in a beach town in San Diego where the ocean was never more than 5 minutes away. I take it for granted most days, but it really is the one thing that never fails to make me happy. There’s something therapeutic about standing in the sun, staring out at the ocean, listening to the rhythm of the tide that instantly calms me, gives me hope and faith in something greater than myself, and genuinely makes me happy. I’ve always wanted to live in a big city at some point in my life, but I know, ultimately, I’ll wind up in a house overlooking the water.
You can’t live your life for other people. You’ve got to do what’s right for you, even if it hurts some people you love.
… you should never give yourself a chance to fall apart because, when you do, it becomes a tendency and it happens over and over again. You must practice staying strong, instead.
He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.
Your life is a sacred journey. And it is about change, growth, discovery, movement, transformation, continuously expanding your vision of what is possible, stretching your soul, learning to see clearly and deeply, listening to your intuition, taking courageous challenges at every step along the way. You are on the path… exactly where you are meant to be right now… And from here, you can only go forward, shaping your life story into a magnificent tale of triumph, of healing of courage, of beauty, of wisdom, of power, of dignity, and of love.
I have 3 brothers.
This is Matt: 32 - Married to Lauren - Has a daughter, Reagan - Used to take me to the park to hit grounders to me and catch during pitching practice - Protective - Very protective - When I turned 21 and could finally go out with my older brothers, we all became very close - Loving brother/father - Sarcastic - Likes country music AND rap - Works for Max Equip. Rental - One of his dream jobs is to run a restaurant - Another is to have a gourmet roach coach - He’s a great cook - My hope for him is that he stops worrying about the money and just goes for one of those dreams someday
This is Ryan: 26 - Probably the brother I’m closest with/spend the most time with - p90x - healthy eater (usually) - We are both taking a psychology class - Good at math - Currently works as a financial analyst - I don’t think he likes it that much (hence the psych class) - Happy Hour - Bowling - Athletic - Triathlons - Funny - Sarcastic (runs in the family) - Reader - Ambitious - Used to be in a show choir at our high school called Sound Express - If he ever reads this, he’ll kill me for writing that - Believes in a bigger purpose for life than making money - We have a lot in common when it comes to fitness, eating right, and beliefs in a greater good, greater purpose, etc. - Zeitgeist (look it up on Vimeo if you haven’t heard of it)
This is Tom: 22 - Guitar player - intellectual - book smart - reader - computer wiz - sarcastic - eats A LOT of junk food and never gains a pound - the brother I butt heads with most (probably bc of how close we are in age) - On his own alot, by choice - Not sure what he wants to do with his life (are any of us?) - He’s always been the one to do things out of the norm of everyone else - Young - Still finding his way